Jealous

If you've got strong feelings of
jealousy, it's probably a sign that
you don't have enough trust in your
partner that he or she is being
faithful to you. That lack of trust
may be prompted by one of four factors.
You may feel insecure about your self-
worth. In these cases, either you've
been raised to believe, or some part
of your inner self feels, that you
just don't measure up. Because you
don't love yourself, you can't believe
that others would love you, so you
live in fear that your
partner's "true" feelings will be
revealed and she will leave.
You're prone to cheating on your
partner -- maybe even have done so.
Knowing what you're capable of, you
project that behavior onto your
partner.
You and your partner haven't yet
figured out how to
establish safe boundaries within the
relationship
establish safe boundaries within the
relationship. Having a tight bond is
about building walls around your love
with windows that allow others to be
part of it -- not doors where
competing lovers can walk right in and
disrupt your home. Because you don't
know what's permissible within the
relationship and what's not, you're
constantly on your toes.
Your mate is cheating on you. Cheating
doesn't have to include sex; it often
has to do with making emotional
connections to others outside the
relationship. If your partner is
sharing things about your private life
with attractive members of the
opposite sex, it robs a sense of
intimacy from your relationship and
leaves you feeling vulnerable.
Knowing the factors that lead to
jealousy is an important first step to
getting things fixed.
Put your focus on building trust
Put your focus on building trust. If
you've got some growing up to do,
therapy may help. Both of you have to
learn how to set boundaries in the
relationship. That requires respecting
your mate's definition of limits of
outside relationships from the start.
Over time, as trust builds, you and
your partner can redefine what feels
safe for the relationship. After all,
when you've got a great relationship,